Anger

Agree to disagree does not mean that we just give up on an argument that we feel is important and then hold onto resentment, anger, irritation, frustration or pain because of it. Anger..it is often said that being angry only makes you smaller as a person, while forgiveness literally forces you to grow beyond what you were..

It also doesn’t mean that we give in, say we are sorry, or feel that we have done something wrong in thought or action. It simply means that we understand we will be unable to see eye to eye and that it is okay to just disagree on certain things in life.

It is always best to just let some things go. Being able to realize which things to let go and which things to hang on to is an important relationship skill. If we spend time pretending to agree to disagree just for the sake of making things nice again; we lose our voice, our confidence, and become hesitant and angry about the relationship. If agreeing to disagree is something we can’t really do on the inside; we shouldn’t offer to do so.

Relationships are not meant to make people happy. They are meant to make individuals complete. My happiness will still be my own responsibility to bear.

Relationships are meant to give me the parts that i can never have on my own. That completeness, whether it be built over the time spent discovering one another is what makes our world go round... It makes us feel like we're capable of anything, and why shouldn't it be that way? After all, when deep down inside i hope to know i have someone there to watch over things i cannot handle, when i know that there is so much more to life than i knew by just being myself, how can i not be capable of anything?

That is what relationships should be about. Not the transient feeling of happiness, but the realisation that two imperfect people can create a beautiful, if not perfect whole. Whether or not choose to find happiness from there, is still my own choice, but it's not going to be something given to me when i have someone i love next to me... It has always been something created by ourselves. Whether to choose to create that happiness with the the person that completes my life, is a responsibility that rests solely on my shoulders....

Standstill

Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something...perhaps they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good...In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take...wll at least thats by my own personal beliefs...so am i contradicting my own beliefs? i'm sick of my apparent abilities to sirr up with ease some of the deepest reactions filled with repulsion and critisms, guess i ain't that great a partner afterall even after my past failed experiences..defeated, disgusted, demoralised and yet there is suppose to be a way out of this..saturation point? i've come to the point where i just don't want to engage in another war of words as nothing will ever be solved and made worse in fact..my fault as i would say to lead things to this point, between us i should have known better and yet i did not act accordingly, there is nothing else that i can say to justify myself..no matter how much acknowledgment and apologies is insufficient, but yet i try hard enough to work on things i fail to do and its just the same..